Advice on college

Trey T. Dennis
Age: 30
Residence: Pineville, MO. 64856
High School: Mcdonald County High School, 98-02.
College Education: Crowder College, Neosho, MO. AA in General Studies, 02-06. Missouri Southern State University, Joplin, MO. B.A. in Mass Communications, 06-10.

Being a socially-challenged person in high school can make even less bearable to people who didn’t like high school, and many of the same challenges carry over into college life. College life probably wasn’t bad as I remembered, but like most people, I often remember the bad experiences more than some of the good ones. College life can be and thought-provoking experience which people like to reminisce later in life. But if you say or do things that make you the black sheep on campus, the college experience can be memorable for the wrong reasons. Even though I was more knowledgeable and book-smart than my fellow students, I was behind in reasoning and social maturity, which is probably the best formula for creating a social outcast in high school. I had friends, but not many I would say were close. Many of these traits were the result of a short-attention span and having a mild form of autism (formerly called Asperger’s Syndrome).
After I went to High School, my first post-secondary institution was a community college where my mother worked in the nursing department. I was really looking forward to college, because many people had told that the college environment was a friendlier and more open-minded, which I agree to certain extent. Having a parent working helping in picking out classes and finding out how the system worked. The only downside to having a parent there, she was quick find out if I wasn’t doing well in certain classes that usually kept secret while high school. I had various interests (which included animal sciences, film and video production, writing) but I still didn’t have a clear idea, so my mom signed me up as pursuing an A.A. in General Studies. The social scene wasn’t quite as difficult as it was in high school. I didn’t often the same classmates in every to the same extent in high school, and since most of them were commuters, the building didn’t seem quite as crowded between classes. I also enjoyed going part-time, giving me more free time between and after classes.
However, I still was not enlightened enough to correct many of my weaknesses from college. I did just about everyone thing a college nerd does wrong in the movies, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. I often would try to be too friendly, not pay attention to space, say the wrong things, tried to act more like other guys by using humor that’s inappropriate in the wrong context. One of my biggest mistakes in post-secondary education was often trying to somebody I wasn’t. I would also have awkward situations where I was friends with someone who’s other friends didn’t like me very much. One girl I befriended I would often sit with at lunch, and so would her two hot-tempered friends. One would constantly about me getting in her bubble, even if I leaned in to say something to her. But then again, there was another guy of hers that had trouble with them also. I would try to change my personality to fit in, but was often unsuccessful. It would get to me emotionally, which is why I believe my grades suffered. My grades also suffered because I was often bad procrastinator who would wait until the last day to study or do homework. One of the symptoms of high-functioning autism is concentrating on certain things that interest you so much that you block out perceptions that more extroverted people would notice. I unfortunately I would often get caught up in my failures, which depression is often accompanied with the diagnosis. But to make myself better I often think of qoutes from the late heavyweight champion Floyd Patterson, such as “It’s easy to do anything in victory. It’s in defeat that a man reveals himself,” and “They said I was the fighter who got knocked down the most, but I also got up the most,” Patterson said later (Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Floyd_Patterson).

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