By Amanda Reese
You walk into the kitchen and see the trash is over flowing. You stop what you are doing and bring the trash to the dumpster. When you walk back in your suppose walks in a few seconds behind you. You ask why had he not taken the trash out.
He replies he had a long day and he would have gotten to it later. Well, you had a long day too, right? Your day may have even been even longer than his day. It would have taken 10 seconds to just put the trash out. He was just being lazy.
Those day-to-day sacrifices may seem big at the time but they never really are. While they may seem important enough to sit down and talk about because you had a stressful day, they do not even scratch the surface of being worthwhile.
In this day and age, women are more hands on and serious about their careers. Some are even the breadwinners in the household. And while it is a common thought of whoever makes the most money makes the rules, when is it time to put your foot down about giving up what you want.
Women are constantly being pressured to start a family before their clock times out and that is stressful, especially, if you have a demanding career. This is not the 60’s anymore. Women are more passionate about their jobs and more career-driven than ever.
At what point do you decide to put your career on hold to start the family that your husband wants? Or what if he gets relocated to a new place and wants the family to move? He is the head of the household. Is it right for you to leave behind the job you love?
First you have to ask yourself, is it worth it? Is staying behind with your job worth the problems and possible animosity that will arise if you do not follow your love one?
Everyone wants to feel supported and that goes for you too! Not going with him may feel like abandonment or neglect. So be sure to talk to him about all possibilities or arrangements first.
If he won’t be far away may be it is okay to stay behind for a few months and you two live separately. Or maybe it’s even longer than that—a year or two.
Just make sure you’re fair to your partner and yourself. If you ever feel like you missed out on an important part of your life because you made a sacrifice that is later not appreciated, it could lead to resentment. So, talking is the key.