A little older, a little wiser, and a little over waking up to someone else’s alarm, your ready to kick the roommate lifestyle and invest in a swanky apartment downtown. This time, it’s just you and your best friends.
What in the world could possibly be better? Nothing, because living in an amazing house with your favorite people in the world couldn’t be easier. Right? Wrong. Mistake number one is assuming that living with people you know will be easy.
Whether they are your friends or not, they still have needs, quirks, and bad habits. Don’t expect that just because they are your friends, they will overlook you being a totally inconsiderate housemate. Likewise, don’t expect that they will respect your needs and wishes. They’ve already earned your approval.
Co-friend apartments are the best way to ruin relationships with people you care about. This is because discussing uncomfortable things with friends is a lot harder than giving a bit of sass to a random stranger. You care about their opinion and they care about yours; but don’t make the mistake of leaving things unsaid.
Most importantly, don’t enter into a collaborative relationship with a housemate. It’s a terrible idea. Whether your sharing a car, a dog, a meal plan, or a romantic relationship, it’s bad news. Your collaborative needs are always going to overlap with your housemate duties and that’s more than a little awkward.
Do you want to have arguments with your boyfriend about toilet paper and dishes before you’ve dated two months? Yikes. Worse, do you want to negotiate gas, oil changes, and hundreds of dollars of repair work with your roommate? Not to mention deciding who gets the car on date night. Hectic times.
At the end of the day, friends are sometimes roommates but roommates are never friends. If you are going to maintain a stress free, passive aggressive free environment, you need to treat roommates as respected strangers.