Hello! I am currently a sophomore at Georgia College and State University majoring in psychology. I have had five years of coaching experience and would love to lend a helping hand to anyone who needs it.
The key to giving advice is not about figuring out how to solve the problem, it is about figuring out what the problem is and then there will simply be an easy, logical way to solve the problem right at your fingertips. This of course is easier said than done because figuring out the problem is not that simple, it takes time and effort that requires a series of actions that consists mostly of trial and error. This is where advice can help. By giving guidance based on the most rational approach to solving the problem, instructions can be offered as to what can be done to enhance and even speed up the trial and error process. There are 5 main points that can be followed to aide in deciding the most commonsense recommendations when giving advice.
1. Do the right thing:
a. This is a hard thing to find someone doing in this day and time, however it can still be done. When faced with a difficult decision, being in a tough situation, or anything else of the like that involves the need for advice, listen to that inner voice, usually referred to as a conscience. Most every human should know right from wrong and when the wrong thing to do is done by someone, immediate bad feelings arise. Why? Because we know it’s wrong. Choosing to do the thing that you know is right will always work out for one’s benefit in the end. So when you are giving someone advice, take time to think about not the best thing to do, or what is wanted most but what is right. Yes, this leaves moral disputes however, remember you are just giving the advice you believe to be and what you feel is right.
2. Stay Positive:
a. Always when giving advice, it is important to keep a positive attitude. Being negative will only cause for an output of negative advice, which could lead someone to take negative action. Therefore, the advice given would be pointless. Also, most people who are seeking advice are looking for an optimistic person, who can give them their input on what would be the best action to take. When you are positive, it draws people towards you and you bring comfort to whoever needs assistance. People are more willing to trust you and take your advice. Being negative will push those away who need advice. Especially considering when someone needs advice, they usually are in a negative situation themselves and need a positive person to help them.
3. Be Confident:
a. When someone is receiving advice it is nice to be getting it from a confident person who is sure of the advice they are giving. No one wants unsure advice, there might as well not have been any advice given in the first place. When you are confident in what you say, it shows you know what you are talking about and that your advice can be trusted and put to good use.
4. Be understanding:
a. Knowing that one can never completely understand where someone else is coming from can really eliminate bias so the advice given is as omniscient as possible. This will also be a comforting factor, letting the person whom you are giving advice to know that they are completely un-judged and can say anything, because knowing the most information possible when trying to give someone advice is very important.
5. Think logically:
a. As stated before, the key to solving a problem is first finding the problem, then using logic to help you decipher intelligent and useful information that will lead to the solution. Using logic is imperative because without it, the process of solving the problem is even more time consuming and difficult. Using logic to give practical and valuable advice will be extremely beneficial to the person seeking the advice because it allows for the most efficient way to solve the problem.