Being Safe and Comfortable

Your years in college will be filled with all sorts of academic, social, and career opportunities. If you work hard then many of them will be very exciting advances in your life. But you’ll be presented with opportunities, or challenges really, that will question your moral judgment at times.

Depending on your upbringing and current situation, your views on what is right and wrong may be slightly different than those around you. Yes, most people agree on some things, such as stealing and lying are wrong, but you may find yourself in situations that challenge you.

First, college, for many, is a time for sexual exploration. Always follow your heart. There is a lot of vulnerability when it comes to exposing and sharing one’s body, including the risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections. Try to find out the intent of your partner and ask yourself if you’re OK with that. If your partner just broke up with someone then you may be a rebound to make them feel better. For some that’s no big deal, but for others it is very difficult to see themselves getting physically involved with someone without any emotional connection. Or you may be offered to do other sexual activities that overall give you a feeling of discomfort. You don’t have to say “yes” to sex for anyone if you don’t feel comfortable, even if it’s a boyfriend or girlfriend. You have the sole right over your body.

This also means you have the sole right as to what goes into your body, including drugs and alcohol.

As the old saying goes, true friends won’t make you do something you don’t want to do. This is absolutely correct. Sure, friends will offer, and friends may even say a drink or two will help you loosen up after a particularly stressful time, but if they continue to offer or pressure you after you’ve firmly said no then it’s time to reevaluate your friendships.

Also, never accept a drink from someone you just met when you haven’t seen the drink be poured, no matter how nice they are to you. Some people are so good and so suave with their lines. But that’s what they are- lines. Take the time to get to know people. If someone doesn’t want to take the time to get to know you then they may not have the best intentions.

Don’t do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. You may think you’ll be cooler if you accept invitations to social or sexual situations that make you feel uncomfortable, but you may not end up looking cooler at all. And how you feel about yourself is way more important than how others feel about you.

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