If you’re a girl on a college campus you should do everything necessary to stay safe. That means know who you’re dating and go about dating smartly. This isn’t meant to worry you, it’s just meant for you to feel safe and secure, which leads you to feel happy and calm.
If you’ve agreed to go out with a guy, or meet up with a guy to see where it takes you and you don’t quite know him well enough, tell him you’ll meet him somewhere like a busy restaurant or bar. That way you’ll feel more comfortable getting to know him there, rather than somewhere secluded. Save the dive bars for after you two are dating and you know him better.
It’s also important to know that many colleges have emergency places or light posts, or call buttons on campus. You don’t have to be freaked out that some stranger is going to come grab you and attack you, but at least look around campus and know where the emergency places are located. That way you’re still calm on dates, but you know you have the awareness in your back pocket of where to go in case something doesn’t go as planned.
Also, if you’re meeting someone new for the first time, feel free to bring friends with you on the first date if you want their take on him. There’s nothing wrong with a first date as a group date, and if he’s cool about it, he’ll be totally fine and supportive. You’ll see his group of friends as well which tells a lot about someone.
It may be a good idea to take a self defense class while in college. Again, this isn’t meant to scare you, but it’s just meant for you to have the tools and knowledge just in case.
If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, or even potentially dangerous one, go with your gut and get out of the situation. Guts usually don’t lie.
Hopefully, this will never happen to you, but just know, don’t let anyone mess with you, you’re tough and you’ll be just fine.