Many times, we get so caught up in the relationships that have been placed in our lives, that we forget the best way to invest in a relationship. The greatest thing you can do for your relationship to keep it healthy and thriving is to simply be yourself. It is all too easy to be swayed or consumed by the thoughts and the expectations of other people and of who they would like us to be or become. It is important to remember that being yourself is the greatest and most beneficial thing you can do in a relationship.
Know who you are and what your Opinion is
If you know who you are, you will have an opinion that is unique because it is your opinion. If you know exactly who you are as a person and what you stand for and believe, you will be able to voice your opinion by being able to say yes or no when you need to. It is important to state how you feel and not be swayed by the opinions of others. Never change yourself to receive approval and love from someone else.
Skip the Audition
You cannot control what someone else thinks or says about you. There is no need to feel like you have to audition for someone to please them or receive their approval. If you find that you have to work hard or make up lies about yourself and who you are to get your partner to love you, then you need to step back and put your relationship into perspective. A healthy relationship that is going to last a lifetime cannot be based on lies and seeking approval.
The Greatest thing you can Learn
The most valuable thing you will learn is realizing that it is impossible to control the thoughts and opinions of other people. What others think of you has very little to do with you, and it has a lot to do with them. Stop trying to control the things in life that cannot be controlled by you. Live life and greet every relationship with the knowing that you are being true to yourself and that nothing anyone says or thinks about you will ever change that.