Senior at Middle Tennessee State University studying Mass Communication Journalism with a minor in writing and global studies. Writer. Photographer. Filmmaker. Creator of incredible things. I am in love with places I’ve never seen, people I’ve never met and the stories surrounding us.
When I began my journey through college, I didn’t realize that I was lost. At constant war with myself, I decided to follow a career path in the medical field because it seemed like a safe bet, but by the time I had most of my general education requirements out of the way in my sophomore year, I knew that what the world wanted for me wasn’t what was best.
I wanted to be a writer.
I was terrified. The future is an unknown void and the road to it is paved with fears of failure and regret. So, I took a leap. I switched my major to Mass Communication Journalism and chose to follow my own path. I didn’t want the rest of my life to be hindered by what others wanted for me or what the world thought would be the best way to make money.
I don’t want the same for you either.
The world is already filled with too many people who are okay with being unhappy. Don’t let them fool you. Some are satisfied doing what they do, but often enough many people admit later on in their life that they wished they’d let themselves be happy and to worry less.
Here’s a couple tips for you if you’re feeling a little lost.
1. Stop worrying. Your future will work itself out if you’re determined enough to make it work. If there’s something you can do to change the situation, then there’s no need to worry and if there’s nothing you can do, then there’s no need to worry. Stress just makes you age quicker, and money is an ever changing wave of uncertainty. You can go to school to be a lawyer, doctor or accountant and still be broke.
2. Gain perspective. What do you want for your life? Is what you’re doing because of money or because it makes you happy? Is it your dream or someone else’s? If you live for someone else’s expectations, then you’ve already failed. Your life is yours alone and you only have one so make the most of it.
3. Be yourself. The newest trend and the need to be included by conforming to certain attitudes will only hinder the person you are supposed to be. Anyone who chooses to put you down doesn’t deserve your presence. Be kind and others will be kind to you.
4. Try new things. If you’re like me, then you fought against change for fear of uncomfortable situations, but that is the worst thing you can do. Try new foods, travel different places and express yourself as if no one is paying attention. No one can tell you that you can’t be something unless you believe it yourself.
5. Take a chance. You don’t want to look back at your life and regret all the things you could’ve done because you were worried what people thought or if it was too much money. It’s easier than you think to be the person you want to be.
I know it sounds like a self-help book, but it’s the truth. I held myself back in school because I was afraid of what could go wrong. Then, I decided to stop. Traveling the world by studying abroad, choosing a major that relates to what I love to do, and jumping into new experiences all helped me realize who I already was.
It may seem impossible, but if someone who constantly worries about money, works full-time and goes to school full-time, fits in an internship and was hindered from growing experiences in early life can swan-dive into this way of thinking, then so can you.
Be happy. Be kind. Live your life the way you want. Remember that your life was not meant for someone else and you’re only held back by who you think you’re not. Your oddity is your greatest asset.