My name is Ann Smith and I am a second year, undergraduate, Drexel University student. I am a member of the B.R.I.D.G.E, which is a mentoring program determined to create excellent business leaders of tomorrow, who come from a variety of backgrounds. I am also a member of the American Red Cross Club. I enjoy listening to R&B, Rock, Hip-hop, Country, and I listen to composers ranging from Beethoven to Jim Brickman. Currently, I am on co-op and am working at Rawle & Henderson. Some of my hobbies include, listening to music, socializing with friends, and writing.
Remember when you were a little kid and your parents allowed you walk to school or around the block to see your bestie for the first time? Remember the one rule the overemphasized about 100 or so times before they allowed you to leave? Of course you do. Everyone does. Profusely they would say,” Don’t talk to strangers.” That rule gets broken the moment you decide to attend a college or university. When you make the decision to attend an accredited University or College, you agree to enter an environment full of strangers (with the exception of a few high school chums you might run into while on campus). For some people, making new friends in college or a University is easier said than done. There are people who have the ability to approach people out of the blue and establish an open dialogue. Then there are some people who are more reticent when speaking to new people. There are a variety of ways to make the introduction process easier:
1. Keep an infant mentality. Remember that you are in a whole new world so you automatically have a clean slate. Be open and be yourself when making new introductions. The only way you will be able to create genuine connection with someone is if you look beyond the person’s exterior. Have an open mind when getting to know someone.
2. Let it go. College is a time for moving forward with one’s life, so it is important to keep past occurrences in the past. Instead of dwelling on “what he said” or “what she said” about you in high school, concentrate on what is transpiring in the present. It is important to leave the high school mind set within the confines of high school.
3. Watch out for nematodes. There are people out there who you will meet as you journey through life disguised as friends who will act as wormy, parasites, or nematodes. The toils of others should not become your new stressors. Not every friendly face you meet is your best friend. Keep those kinds of people at a distance.
4. A watched phone never rings. You cannot effectively make friends by waiting for a person to start the conversation the first time. College becomes more fun when you get involved on campus. Try out for some teams, join a club or become a part of Greek life. The more involved you get on campus, the more faces you meet in life.
4. Variety is the spice of life. Instead of going straight to your dorm or home after class to do your homework try to work in a different setting. Try studying in your local dining hall, Starbucks, library, or populated common grounds on campus. The change in scenery will not only expose you to new faces, but also provide inspiration for future course projects.
Starting over can be rough, and without a strong support system to turn to, the transition can be a bit overwhelming. As long as you keep an open heart, and a rational mind, establishing a connection with someone will not be so difficult to do. College is positively one of the most enticing times of a young person’s life. Even though a “fresh start” can seem consuming, it is important to remember that there are thousands of young adults who share in your antsy anticipation.