Everyone Else is Already Taken

I am Tyresha Rose Parker. A senior Communications and Media Studies major originally from Newburgh, NY. I now reside in Winston Salem, NC where I attend the illustrious Winston-Salem State University. Upon graduation I aspire to serve in the United States Air Force as a public affairs specialist.
In my spare time I enjoy researching, writing poetry, various outdoor activities, and spending time with friends and family.
My favorite quote: “As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people the permission to do the same.” ~Marianne Williamson

You’re new, you’re alone, and you’re apprehensive about the life that lies before you. During your beginning stages of college there will come a rainy day that allots you the time to sit and imagine where it is you want to go and who exactly it is you want to be. Should you ever find yourself pondering, “How did I make it to college,” because you did not graduate at the top of my class, you were not a star athlete, nor were you deemed Mr. or Ms. Popularity, don’t fret– for you are still worthy of anything your heart so desires.
Relinquish. There are no more cliques, curfews, or orchestrated lunch schedules that relentlessly remind you of your ever changing social status. From this point on you are an adult and it’s up to you to decide your future. When first arriving to college it will take some adjusting, physically, mentally, and emotionally in order for you to succeed. It is necessary for one to view and understand their surrounding before making a clear decision on where to place yourself in this new found society for it is very easy to get swept up the hustle and bustle of it all. Do not fear being alone. This is the time for you to get familiar with yourself, who you are, who you want to be, and what it is you want to accomplish.
Adapt. Once you have taken a breather and captured a clear picture of where you are it’s important to begin adapting. Adapt, but DO NOT CONFORM. Understand that adapt means being able to simultaneously distinguish the differences between yourself and your surroundings and dwell comfortably within the two. While conforming will force you to remove yourself from your surrounding and effortlessly eliminate your individuality. Here’s where being mentally strong will play a major part. In this stage of you college career you must stay true to your core values in order to become the person you were meant to be and contribute your truth to the world.
Communicate. Take every opportunity to express your goals in the likeliness that others may want to join or help you reach your success. No matter how ambitious your desires may be, do not hold back what you want to do out of fear that someone may judge you because you may be amongst a person that can directly help you to that goal or you may even give someone else the courage to speak their dreams as well. While on your search for a stable platform, exhaust all possible outlets before taking no as an answer and even then, if you are extremely determined, there is always an avenue for you to create your own path.
Perform. Now it is time for you to show yourself to the world—well, at least your campus. At this point you have analyzed those around you, scoped out the path you feel is best for you, and expressed clearly where you want to end up in the coming years; so feel free to begin your evolution. Remember that this is a four year journey and there are multiple avenues pointing in the direction of your overall outcome, travel as many as possible. Don’t worry if you are not as multi-talented as others, just be sure to excel in something! Be the exemplary student, the pro-bound athlete, the influential poet, or if all else fails—simply be the best YOU anyone could offer!
In the words of Ralph Emerson “to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is [your] greatest accomplishment.”

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