How Many Dates Before We Make It Official

By Amanda Reese

Ok, you have been going on dates with this guy for two months now. Is it time for you to make it official?

Here’s the thing. There really is no number of dates you have to go on with a person that officially make you two an item. It’s the agreement itself. Make sure you are certain that this is the person you want you make the one, even if it is just for the moment.

It’s not the amount of time you spent but the value of that time when you are with that person. Make sure you two have the same ideals and values in life. Many times you go out to places or on dates to have fun and in return rarely talk about deep-rooted issues. After all why do we date? We date to find someone who will eventually be our life partner.

If you two differ on major moral issues or if you want a big family or no children at all, you probably don’t need to work so had trying to make it happen.

This does not mean you two still can’t go one dates especially if you do have the best time together. Just recognize what your ultimate goal in life is when it comes to finding a partner.

Being decisive about what you want out of a relationship is never a bad thing. Never compromise your feelings or views just to get along with a person you occasionally have a good date with. Make sure that person has what you have to offer and vice versa.

Rushing into a relationship is probably one of the worst things you can do in life. It adds unnecessary stress to your day-to-day living and could possible ruin what have may have been just a really good friendship.

Ultimately, if you think it is time to take the next step with the one you have been dating, talk to them about it. See if you two are on the same page. This does not mean sit down at the next dinner with a legal pad and rattle off a checklist. You should know enough about the person through casual conversation.

Discuss what you are looking for in a person and what you want to get out of a relationship with them. Keep your checklist minimal but specific. You do not want to overwhelm your date and frighten them off. Many times its not that the woman’s standards are set too high, it’s that the number of qualifications frightens off the suitor out of fear of disappointment.

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