My name is Jasmine Loyal and I am from Glen Burnie, Maryland. I graduated from Frostburg State University with a degree in chemistry and a certificate in Professional Writing. I was involved in various honor societies and organizations. I currently work for the National Institutes of Health as a research technician.
The first years of college are arguably the easiest academically. The general education classes are a breeze and campus life is exciting. However, as time goes by and the work load increases (especially with the possibility that you’ve had to get a job at some point in time), most of the excitement is replaced with stress. Between one semester and the next, the work load becomes overwhelming. It is important that at this point you do one thing…Never lose sight of the bigger picture and QUIT COMPLAINING!
So, what is the bigger picture? The bigger picture is that college encompasses only a few years of your life. Therefore, all of the deadlines and intense study sessions are just temporary. The “C” paper you were forced to turn in because you had to set aside time to study for midterms does not set the stage for your entire educational or professional career. Everyone has to make sacrifices. Do not hold on to the effects of logical decision making. Learn to let things go!
Fact: College is hard work. It can also be a life-changing experience and it is imperative that you do not miss out on valuable experiences because you are so engulfed in your academics. Counteract the stressors of undergrad with other activities, like extra-curricular activities and hobbies. Turn to these activities when you begin to feel overwhelmed. These mental breaks will also allow you to disassociate yourself from the stressor and associate yourself with the overall purpose, providing you with the motivation to simply push through and quit complaining.
Indications that you’re complaining too much:
1. Every time you speak with a family member from home you are riddling off all of the assignments you have and talking about how you do not know how you will get it all done. Everyone is entitled to a pep talk or two, but be sure that every talk is not a pep talk.
2. Out to eat with friends, most of what you contribute to the conversation is pessimism about your to-do list.
3. Someone asks how you are doing and it turns into a conversation about school, classes, professors, stress, etc. When you have reached this point it is vital that you revisit your short and long-term goals so that you can be reminded of the purpose of the experience.
(I am personally guilty of all three of these signs. I wish I knew then what I know now, post-graduation, about how frivolous many of my complaints were.)
The lesson: Save the negative energy expelled towards the complaining for a deserving event! As you move on in life you will be faced with obstacles that are far less trivial and longer-lasting than juggling undergraduate coursework. Your personal life and the various nuances of life itself are enough to worry about. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Enjoy the time spent in college and enjoy the campus life. Gain all you can and chalk the overwhelming nature of it all to a learning experience.