As we grow up and go away to college, the fear of missing out changes a little, but it’s always with us in some small way. For many of us, it becomes a pressing need to be a part of every social wave that passes our way. This party, that net ball game. Your entire floor is going away on a ski trip-you hate skiing but you feel socially obligated.
Is it ever ok to just say no? The answer is yes. While it’s really important to get involved in activities and make an effort to connect with others, that doesn’t mean that you need to feel guilty when you just want to sit back and take time to yourself. It doesn’t make you an outcast, or boring, or unadventurous. Sometimes, we all just have to say no.
The same goes for ‘being a good friend’. You can be a loyal and committed bestie without compromising your personal values or bending over backwards for someone. We all have moments where we have to ask our friends to go the extra mile- but this should be the exception, not the rule.
If you find yourself constantly sticking your neck out or performing extravagant favors for a less than grateful amigo, it’s time to stand up for yourself. All relationships are a two way street so never feel guilty or pressured to do something you don’t want to do.