Life Lessons From A Party Girl

Hello there!
My name is Sarah Lamkin and I from Cumming, Ga.
I attended Georgia College and State University where studied Mass Communications, meet lifelong friends and had the time of my life.
I am passionate about helping others, offering my advice and brainstorming different ways to communicate effectively.
I love traveling and spending time outdoors, along with hanging out with friends and family.
Although an Atlanta native, I am currently in the process of relocating to Greenville, S.C. where I will begin my next pursuit of happiness.

“Don’t be that girl.”

If you’re a female in college you have probably heard this phrase at least once or twice. Whether it was from your judgmental parents who think you drink like a fish, from your 8 a.m. professor who has seen one too many girls in oversized t-shirts with last night’s make on or from that snobby upperclassman who doesn’t want to admit she has in fact been that girl, you have probably heard people refer to her with embarrassment and pity in their voice, right?

Well what happens when you have been that girl and everything turned out okay? What makes it alright for guys to get blackout drunk and make stupid mistakes, but we turn our heads is disgrace when it’s a young woman? Can we not act reckless and irresponsible too? And is no one else going to admit they’ve been that girl and it was fun?

I remember when I was a little kid we would pass by a group of students hanging out and my dad would say, “what a shame that pretty girl has a beer and cigarette in her hand.” As a kid I could agree, I mean let’s be honest, I was never going to be that girl. But something changed when I got to college. I had a new sense of freedom. I wanted to be that girl. I wanted to experience things that my parents and society had sheltered me from. It wasn’t about looking cool or trying to fit in, it was about learning why people didn’t want to be that girl. What was so bad about it? I was still the same person. What did being a party girl really change?

While many people probably disagree, I think there is a lot of learn from partying it up in college. In no way I am condoning underage drinking or any of the causalities that go along with it; however, I am saying that I was a party girl and I turned out just fine.

In a way, being that girl shaped who I will become as a woman. I was able to use my college years to experiment and grow into my own skin. Of course there were plenty of times I regretted drinking too much, acting like a fool in front of that cute boy from biology or accidently sleeping through my most important class, but that was how I learned my limits and how I found out who I really am. Because I was out-going and fun, I got asked on more dates than my roommates, I felt more confident showing up to parties knowing people would welcome me with open arms and above all else I made best friends with whom I share lifelong bonds with.

I think a lot of people (mostly adults) think that partying automatically means you’re about to get pregnant, you’re ruining your reputation and you’ll leave college with no job and a drinking problem, but I believe quite the opposite. I am leaving college knowing how to dress to impress. I am leaving college knowing my drinking limits and I know for a fact I won’t be that girl at the employee Christmas party. I am leaving college satisfied because I lived life to the fullest and didn’t hold back. Could I have done this without partying? Of course. But somewhere along the way I let my guard down and found out that I can overcome an embarrassing night out, I can overcome making myself look like an idiot in front of cute boys and I can overcome feeling awkward in a crowd. College allowed me to be whoever I wanted to be until I found out who I was suppose to be.

I don’t look down on that girl. I embrace that girl. That girl is learning and she’s trying. She is well on her way to learning who she’ll become and who will stand by her side through it all. College is the longest four short years in your life and you can’t let someone else’s standards from stop you from experiencing it to the fullest.

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