Someone’s caught your eye and he lives just across the hall. A co-ed dorm serves up the potential for new and thrilling romance with no parents to get in the way. This feeling of freedom and independence paired with the buzz of a crush can go straight to your head. So take a breather and consider a few things before you jump into anything too quickly.
Just because your parents aren’t there, doesn’t mean you should forget everything they ever taught you about the opposite sex. For example, if you invite this guy into your dorm room alone, you are inviting him into your bedroom, for all intents and purposes.
Sure, you might just want to get to know this guy better, but for him, being alone with you in your dorm/bedroom might send a certain signal. You need to be sure the signal he receives is the signal you want to broadcast.
At first , invite him in when other people are there. There is protection in numbers, plus it takes the pressure to get physical out of the equation, at least until you have time to get to know each other better.
There is something to be said for taking it slowly and you don’t want to be doing the walk of shame in front of the entire dorm. Plus, the relationship may not last, but he is still going to be living just across the hall. You’re going to probably see him every day for the rest of the semester.
Of course you don’t have to follow all the rules your parents laid down at their home, now that you are on your own. But remember, there were probably reasons for their rules, and you need to act and think in mature ways in order to navigate through your new, parent-free life. Where your parents used to protect you, now you need to protect yourself. That means thinking before you act, and safeguarding your own best interests.
Enjoy College Romance, but enjoy it wisely. You’ve got four years (or more!), so take your time, and make good choices.