Hello everyone my name is Nada Ezaldein and I am student at the University of Florida. I am majoring in Finance and East Asian Languages and Literature. Like many others who stumble upon Admitopia, I am an enthusiast about learning and education, and appreciate all things that celebrate the creative spirit. I am always hungry for some stylish inspiration, and I am so excited to be an outlet of inspiration for those who share that same hunger. I have always found writing to be something that is so natural, so therapeutic, and so much fun but only realized this year that it has really become one of my hobbies. Being a writer at Admitopia allows me to combine my two favorite hobbies, fashion and writing, into something productive while hopefully putting a smile on someone’s face.
People are often judged by their worst habits. It’s a simple and small pill that is often hard to swallow.
In many cultures people are expected to take their shoes off upon entering a home or building. Those same shoes, the ones that are too filthy to wear inside, are attributed to the old saying “you can judge a man by his pair of shoes.” Perhaps the logic is that shoes are vulnerable to stealthy inspection and a person’s dirtiest item can reveal their true character. Although this logic seems flawed and unjust, it is essentially how the world works. People are shorthanded everyday, judged based on such shallow details with such inconsistent reasoning, while their talents are masked by their flaws. Like any environment however, humans are skilled enough to adapt to unfavorable circumstances.
In a world where appearances speak louder than both actions and words, we have to know which battles to fight. The high schoolers and college students who sit in class clad in superhero pajamas are ironically very un-heroically losing the battle of trying to dismantle established standards and norms of presentation. In just a few years, those students who hoped of being a part of some fantasy 21st century counterculture, will be forced to swallow a heavy dose of reality upon entering the working world. A place where even casual fridays are not that casual and one look at your tattered sneakers may speak louder than your resume while the man suavely wearing brown leather oxfords is now literally a shoe-in.
For my first college interview, I wore a simple black button-down with a black skirt, tights, black pointed-toe flats and a subtlety embellished belt. I felt that neutral colors were appropriate, I wanted to keep things dressy and formal, but not too dressy, and I added a little personality with the belt. As an overly cautious teenager, I arrived at the location 40 minutes too early, and had to anxiously wait for my interviewer. I noticed that a woman sitting near me was doing the same exact motions of anxious anticipations as myself: glancing at her watch, darting a look towards the entrance every time the door opened, and taking forced casual sips of coffee every five minutes. I ended up telling her I was waiting for my interviewer and she said that she too was anxiously waiting for an interview of sorts, and was meeting an old friend whom she had not seen in 10 years. She said that she noticed how nice I was dressed great, and I felt a surge of confidence, like I was ready to impress! When my interviewer arrived, that is exactly what I did.
Those who will soon enter college, may start to feel that life will become a series of interviews where one may be judged by shallow initial physical impressions, and may feel discomforted by that sense of vulnerability. However, growing up is always a fragile process of doubt and self-discovery and forcing yourself to mature into these concepts may not be easy. When you consider the value of your skills, your ideas, and your talents, those shallow interviews become outlets into a very bright and attainable future. It is all the more important to regard those moments of doubt and discomfort instead as opportunities to make your talents roar loudly in ways no resume or pair of shoes could, and to fashion yourself always in a manner that will echo your self-worth.