Ending a serious relationship is one of the hardest decisions any college student has to make (besides choosing a major and a roommate, of course). No one likes going through a messy break-up, but it’s not fair to either of you to just stay in the relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. If even the slightest thought of “should I stay or should I go?” is running through your head, it might be time to revaluate your commitment.
Constant bickering – The way he puts his shoes. The way she runs her fingers through her hair every ten seconds. If the two of you are fighting on the regular for no apparent reason, ask yourself if this is the type of relationship you really want to be in. A boyfriend/girlfriend is supposed to bring out the best in you; not make you roll your eyes every time their number pops up on your phone.
A “white” liar – Is it too much to expect the truth? Methinks never! Assuming you value honesty in a relationship, it’s best to free yourself from this person if they continuously cause you to doubt. It is all to easy to be ‘blinded by love’ and brush their small lies to the side. Just remember, ‘Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.’
You want different things – Maybe he wants to move across the country after graduation while you are perfectly content staying in your hometown. Maybe she dreams of getting married and starting a family ASAP while you’d rather mooch off mom and dad a few more years.
This is one of the most unfortunate yet blaring signs a ‘next!’ needs to occur. Your relationship may be totally normal and healthy, but when trying so hard to make it work causes unnecessary stress, it’s time to start feeling selfish. Never let a relationship get in the way of your dreams. After all, you came to college for a reason – an academic one!
Somebody has an addiction – Partying in excess just sounds so college. For this reason, it can be easy to overlook an alcohol or drug problem in an early twenty-something. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is hooked on something they can’t shake, first, try and get them help. Second, recognize that keeping so close to danger is only going to end up hurting you, too, in the end.
Somebody cheated – Kick this partner to the curb. You deserve way better than that.