Singles groups are NOT where you go to meet men

If you are anything like me, at some point in your life, you will join a singles group in an attempt to meet that special someone and live happily ever after.

Allow me to dash your hopes to pieces in advance, and replace them with a better understanding of why you should go to a singles group, and how it can help you in the long run.

First of all, you’re going to go to a singles group, and learn something really fast: you are surrounded by amazing, accomplished, highly datable women…and maybe 2 men, both of whom look intimidated and shy. You will spend most of your evening getting to know the other women there. You will walk away with at least one woman’s number. You may or may not leave without ever having spoken to a man. You will have had a wonderful evening, but you will return home to ponder your existence and wonder why that turned out as horribly wrong as it did.

Chin up. Unfortunately, singles groups don’t work they way they should. There are many theories as to why, but no one’s 100% sure. The “why” won’t help you. The “what do I do next” will.

You might not meet a guy there, but what you’re doing is networking–so use the event as a way to meet new women! All of the women there have their act together enough to know what they want and go get it. You want to be around them, trust me. So go to the singles group and network your way through it, making sure to make all the connections you can before you leave. Before you know it, you’ll have an ever-expanding circle of friends–and those friends are SURE to know eligible bachelors who might work really well with you!

So change your tactics, take a deep breath, don’t be shy, and go use those singles groups to your advantage!

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