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A new school year is upon us, so if you’re a soon-to-be Freshman reading this post and your eyes are bulging at the sight of the word “transfer”, allow me to explain.
Where you choose to go to college is not an end-all-be-all, permanent decision. Of course, staying with the same school for all four years is ideal, but many students have transferred for one reason or another and have come out just fine—myself included.
My first year of college I attended a very small private Catholic college, mostly because my older brother went to another University about five minutes away and I wanted to be close to him. I didn’t even visit the school before submitting my deposit, which was definitely my first mistake. Before I knew it, I was off to school with the car packed to the brim, ready to embark on a new chapter in a school I knew very little about. Oy.
Thankfully, the first semester was a blast. I made such close friends with five other girls on my dorm floor who I did just about everything with—dinner, parties, shopping, you name it. When we went away on winter break, we kept sending each other messages about how much we couldn’t wait to get back to school and be together again. I was so happy I was having such an amazing time in college.
Unfortunately, the next semester changed dramatically. One of the girls and I became really close friends and started making friends with another group of people, which our original group of friends didn’t appreciate too much. Then, one night I had a little too much—apple juice—and said something rude that I completely didn’t mean or wouldn’t have said if I wasn’t drinking, eh hem, juice. Before I knew it, my closest friends (except my best friend) had turned on me and I had never felt more alone or upset. Even though we “made up” a few days later, things never went back to normal and there was always underlying tension between us.
After a few months had passed, other drama ensued between those girls, and they began to have a falling-out as well. Our “original six” was quickly diminishing and turning into a few different sub-groups. What a disaster.
That falling-out made me want to switch schools ASAP. I know it sounds a bit juvenile to completely transfer out of a school because of an argument with friends, but I felt so uncomfortable on the campus and like I wasn’t relating to anyone there except for my one best friend.
However, I have to say that deciding to transfer schools was the best decision I’ve ever made. I actually ended up going to the state University right in my home town (ironic, right?), and made some of the best friends that I’m still close with today. I also met my boyfriend there, and received an amazing education. My new school was about five times the size of my previous college, and had so many more unique and inspiring people that I felt I fit in with so much better.
The moral of the story here is that if you’re unhappy at the school you currently attend (or are going to attend), don’t feel as though you have to stay. The best time to transfer is your Freshman or Sophomore year so that you haven’t invested too much time at one school and then find yourself having issues transferring credits and completing the requirements for your degree on time. For me, I ended up having to take a few summer courses to complete my degree in four years, but it wasn’t bad at all. Many summer courses can be taken online, and I enjoyed staying educated even when I was out of the classroom.
Before you transfer, make sure you do your research, and meet with a counselor from the new school before-hand to make a game plan for your new future. Who knows, this new school may be as life-changing for you as it was for me.
Best of luck in whatever route you choose!