My name is Taylor Lackey. I am an artist and writer. I like peace, the color green, and learning. I moved to Los Angeles from Oshkosh, Wisconsin about six months ago. I am now living on my own and enjoying California. In my free time I like to read, listen to music, paint, write, spend time with friends and family, etc. I am really interested in traveling and photography. I love kids and animals and enjoy yoga, running, biking, eating healthy and being outdoors.
Did you know some people were nervous and scared of being on their own when moving to college? I couldn’t relate to those people. I went at it full force and couldn’t wait for the day. Going to college was the first time I was on my own. And that was a big deal to me. It meant freedom. No more questions from Mom. No more of the same questions from Dad when he got home. No more answering where I’m going. I could do whatever I wanted without having to answer to anyone. And that was liberating.
However, I had never had the chance to experience being on my own without being in the college environment. I thought the college environment was what being on my own is like. At that time, it was for me. But now that I am on my own and not in the college environment, I realize I can do whatever I want, but that doesn’t have to be what everyone else wants. College trapped me into feeling like I had to act a certain way or celebrate certain things or celebrate them in a certain way.
Basically what I’m talking about is the drinking and the partying side of college. Partying is not at all bad, but it doesn’t have to be accompanied by drinking. Living in the college dorms fogged my view of my true desires and beliefs. They became molded similar to those around me.
They say you always become more like who you hang around the most. Now that I’m on my own, I have a better sense of whom I want to hang around, or in other words, whom I want to be more like. I want to be around people who bring out the best in me. I want to be around people who challenge me to be better. I want to be around people who accept me as I am and not try to change me, but rather give me thoughtful advice, which I can either take or leave. I want to be around people who give me the freedom to be myself.
If I want to be around these types of people, I have to be this type of person. If you are going to become like whom you are hanging around the most, then you must act the way you want people to act. Generally, it’s better not to complain. People like to be around positive people. What good has complaining ever got you? If something bothers you, do something about it. It still is a common crutch of mine to complain about something that isn’t going right. The energy we’re using to complain about a situation is just dramatizing it. Rather, you can use that energy to problem solve.
Speaking of becoming like whom you hang around most, why would you hang around people you don’t want to be like? Your time is valuable. Don’t waste it on people who won’t promote the better you. Anyone who brings out the best in you is worth keeping in your life. Relationships should be easy. If they’re not, maybe they’re not the right fit for your life at that time.
I moved to Los Angeles about six months ago and realized I can go to school without always being in the college environment. Although you are technically in college, that doesn’t have to dictate your actions in any way. It doesn’t justify any behavior or give you any excuses. Living away from the college environment has taught me a lot and given me so much peace of mind.