By Susana Acosta
If you’re hoping that your missed period is going to be a wake-up call for your boyfriend, and that overnight he will somehow be the more dedicated, mature, and loving man that you’ve nagged him to be for years or months (or weeks?), then this is a wake- up call for you.
It’s not going to happen.
First, men are not likely to change without being driven by motives that do not involve personal want and desire. So please, let this be the first time and last time you have to hear this. Secondly, if you are using the potential existence of an unborn human as a reason to keep a guy tethered to you-boyfriend or not-then you should stop worrying about your relationship status and consider evaluating where you stand with yourself. A self-respecting girl should not have to steep to such a low level of desperation to gain this level of attention.
If none of the above apply to you, then that’s great. Hopefully, you know that babies don’t solve problems and that being pregnant (or pretending to be pregnant) is never the solution- unless you’re trying to avoid an X-ray…
However, the fact remains that you thought you could have been pregnant. Did you not ask your partner to use a condom? “But he’s the guy, it’s not my responsibility,” you might be thinking. Wrong. It’s your body; you will be the one with another life in your body if semen successfully attaches to an egg. Therefore, it is always your responsibility to make sure that you do everything you can to avoid things that you don’t want to happen from not happening. If this means taking birth control in some form (i.e. shot, pills, uterine insert), then do it! Otherwise, be safe by using a condom each time or abstaining in general. I don’t mean to sound like your health teacher from high school, but trust me. The older you get, the more you will realize just how much you are risking by leaving your sexual health in the hands of a person whose only interest during an encounter might just be his grand finale.
If you are accidentally in a situation where you are late or have skipped over a cycle, and you happen to be a virgin or did use proper forms of birth control, then do not immediately assume the worst. This has happened to me before, and I learned that it was caused by stress. At one point, this natural mishap was even brought on by a drastic fluctuation in my weight within a short amount of time. If you visit a doctor, you will find that there are a myriad of reasons for why you might have experienced a pregnancy scare, or a false pregnancy scare, I suppose. The important thing to take from this is that you have to obtain power over the situation. And knowledge is power. Figure out the facts first, and then act. Do not start calling every guy you’ve slept with or crying to your friends that you have to drop out of school to become a mom.
Learn what your pregnancy scare really means.