College dorm

Bria Morse

I am entering my senior year at Syracuse University as a Nutrition Science major, with 3 additional minors in public health, biology, and exercise science. Originally from Newburgh, NY, I grew up in an atmosphere that was half suburbia and half city, with a whole lot going on. I can’t sit still and like to analyze how things work; this, therefore, led to my interests in sport and nutrition sciences (now I just have to figure out what to do with it).

Your freshman year roommate who they profiled you with may not have been too great. So now you have made other friends and you are at the point where you are choosing who you would like to room with next year. We all hope that we’ve picked out our daily living soul mate, but you’re likely to be wrong.

Rules:

  1. Don’t just pick your best friend. You may love them to death, but can you handle sharing all of your alone time with them? Are they the best friend who needs attention or can you sit in the same room and not talk? Are they going to call you every weekend because they can’t get home?
  2. Re-examine wanting multiple roommates. Yes, getting all of your friends to live together because you spend all of your time together anyway sounds great, and it can be. But are two friends closer to each other than to everyone else? Even if this is not a big deal, it can get annoying at the least if you’re spending all of your time with the two of them. Also, finding complete compromise with one person can be difficult. How ready are you to accept giving up or taking on battles that include three, four, or more people?
  3. Bring up sneaky pet peeves. Do you hate when people borrow your clothes or steal your food, or are you completely up for sharing everything? Don’t get stuck living with someone who has a different idea of how things are going to run. And if you do, make sure they’re compromising and understanding.
  4. Again, boundaries. I can’t stress this more. If you bring home a hook-up or really need to study, will this person leave you alone? Or if your room is open, will they willingly leave when they have to stay up and you need to sleep?
  5. If you don’t choose the right person, deal with it. Some situations are harder than others. Some roommates are just crazy. But, if you can commune peacefully, just do it. They were your friend most likely at some point and if you’ve learned anything from family, living with someone can make hatred strike deep.

Living with people is a big commitment, so think it over. Be aware that, especially if you’re moving into a house or apartment, every factor including laundry, rent, walking distance, rooms of different size, etc. may be a debate or a compromise. Try to make the situation best for you, while avoiding being obnoxious and controlling, or evil in some cases.

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