Who to Date

Iris has had a love of writing as long as she can remember, but didn’t start writing professionally until 2011. After establishing herself as a freelancer, she opened up her own writing and editing firm in 2014. She has written everything from research reports for academic institutions to articles for news sites to marketing material for major corporations. Although her work has included content on a wide variety of subjects, she particularly likes writing about academics, education policy, and politics.

 

If you find yourself continuously scanning the sea of college faces for an eligible date, you’re not alone. All your female classmates are doing it as well, and in case you didn’t already know, the guys are doing it back to you also! It can be difficult to decide who to pursue (or who to let pursue you) in the cat and mouse game that college dating can be. First of all, you have to decide what you’re even looking for from a guy. Yes “from” a guy, not “in” a guy – although that’s important too. Before you can write out your list of qualifying characteristics in a suitor, you have to decide for yourself what you’re looking for from a member of the opposite sex. In other words, do you want a one night stand, a casual fling, a friend with benefits, a steady relationship, a future husband? If you’re looking for something laid back and low key, you’ve got a much wider range of options. Basically the only boxes you need to check are “decent looking” and “tolerable personality.” Whenever other characteristics rise to the surface that turn you off, well, then you know it’s time to cut him loose. Chances are you’ll have at least one such relationship over the course of your college career. At some point, however, you may wish to seek out something a bit more lasting. After all, once you graduate from college your years of being surrounded by similar-aged men will be over for good! Unless, of course, you decide to go back for a second degree. But that’s a different topic. Chances are your parents or someone else’s parents who you know met while they were in college, and it’s no coincidence! College is a great time to get to know a lot of different guys and ultimately find someone who you’ll continue to date after graduation. You never know where you’ll meet that lucky someone. He could be sitting next to you in your Econ class, on your ultimate Frisbee team, or hanging out at the nearest frat house. Warning: if you go looking for him, you might not find him. It’s one thing to have a well-developed idea of what kind of relationship you’re interested in, and it’s another situation altogether to sketch a picture of your ideal guy and then post a want ad in the school paper. You’re more likely to find someone who really gets your heart fluttering if you stop looking so hard, practice at patience, and focus on other aspects of the university experience. No worries if you find yourself single for a moment or two. In fact, there’s really no need to label yourself as anything if you don’t want to. Single, committed, or somewhere in between – it’s all just part of the college dating scene.

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