How to make friends in college when you commute

My name is Teaira Ridgeway and I am a 22 year old graduate from Ohio University with a Bachelor’s of Science in Child and Family Studies. I minored in Psychology and obtained my certificate in Diversity Studies.
Now, imagine being a freshman and moving into your residence hall! That moment you drive to school with your family, carry all of your things to your room to check in, set everything up the way you want it, and for some, you finally meet your first roommate(s). Just like any other freshman in any incoming class, I came into school ready to meet new people, embrace new opportunities, and embrace new challenges. I remember attending an assembly with the president of the university during our first week. President McDavis, quoted something that really resonated with me, “Look to your left, now look to your right; someone you’re looking at right now will not walk across the stage with you.” Though it was the harsh reality of things, I knew nothing would prevent me from accomplishing my ultimate goal to graduate from college.
There will be times, when you are feeling down, unsure about your future, and ready to quit; but you can’t let that stand in the way of your main aspirations and endeavors. The best thing you can do is find people who are just as passionate about the things you love and are willing to work hard to reach their goals. I met some of my best friends in college. One of the biggest reasons for us becoming friends in the first place was because we had a similar interest: dance. We went from participating in dance contests together our freshmen year to creating our very own university dance team our sophomore year , and even became re-charter members of the same sorority our junior year. We were the first to do and start many things on our campus and that was something I can’t say I did with many others.
It’s not about the amount of friends you have when you get to school (because by the time you leave you probably will be able to only count on one hand the amount of “real” friends you have); it’s about the lessons you learn, the ups and downs you experience, the growth in the process, and what you take from the people you interact with. The honest truth is people will come in and out of your life; some for a reason and some (and sometimes most) are only for a season. You have to know who you are, what you stand for and never lose sight of your aspirations and goals.
Make sure that you are prepared to grow because the person that you are when you walk into your freshmen year will not be the same person you are walking across that stage years later. Know that because you are changing and growing as a person, the group of friends you hang out with will change as well. You know you’ve made a great friend when you can’t see your life without them. Never forget that you are an individual and you want to be around people who are a reflection of you! Have fun with your friends! Cherish every moment you have with them because it will be those good times that you look back on and realize that they are one of the big reasons why you had the experience that you had in college.

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